Steven Batchelor's book Buddhism Without Beliefs has this wonderful definition of acceptance: “Awareness is a process of deepening self-acceptance." He goes on to say why this seeing can be so deep and radical…”There is nothing unworthy of acceptance.”
Even the self. Especially the self. (My words)
Acceptance is a big deal in A.A. I have tended to see acceptance as an adjustment to reality; acceptance of what is and learning to deal with it honestly without self-deception or the deception of others. In this way Batchelor turns acceptance back on ourselves. When we learn to accept we are not just seeing reality or life itself with a clear set of glasses, we are learning to see ourselves more clearly, coming to accept what ourselves in what we see, warts and all. Recovery begins here..
This is a new idea to me, or it is an old idea I have forgotten. Nevertheless it is truly important.